How to Set a Follow Up Cadence for Every Deal Stage
How to set a follow up cadence that runs on decisions, not mood. One short rule for each situation, a rough timing, and an exit, so no deal drifts into silence.
To set a follow up cadence, don't write one rule for everything. Write one short rule per situation: new enquiry, after a meeting, waiting on a proposal, gone quiet. For each, decide the next touch and roughly when. The gap between touches should be a decision, never an accident.
How to set a follow up cadence that survives a busy week
Most solo operators have a cadence. They just never wrote it down, so it runs on mood.
Mood says: chase the people you like. Mood says: skip the awkward one. Mood says: it's Friday, it can wait. Mood is a terrible sales manager, and you are paying it a full salary.
A follow up cadence replaces mood with a decision made once, on a calm afternoon, before you need it. It doesn't need to be clever. It doesn't need to be precise. It needs to exist.
Why does that matter so much? Because a human head handles a dozen live deals adequately and fifty badly, and it fails silently. You never notice the follow-up you forgot. Writing the rhythm down, and letting a tool hold the dates, is how one person carries a big pipeline. Not more energy. Less remembering.
Why one rule for everything fails
"I follow up every week." Sounds disciplined. It's wrong in at least three ways.
It's too slow for a fresh enquiry, which is at peak interest and cooling by the hour. It's too fast for a buyer who told you they'd decide after their quarterly review. And it's the wrong shape for a deal that has already gone silent, which needs a different approach altogether, not the same message again.
The right rhythm depends on where the deal is. So the first job is to list the situations you actually have. Most solo businesses have four.
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| Situation | Next touch | Timing | Why |
|---|---|---|---|
| Brand-new enquiry | A human reply with a proposed next step, then a second touch if it goes unanswered | Same day, then soon after | Peak intent is short. Speed is the first thing they judge you on. |
| Just after a good meeting | A written summary, then a touch on the agreed date | Summary quickly, while it is fresh in both minds | Memory fades on both sides, and yours is the one you can control. |
| Waiting on a proposal decision | A check-in with something in it | Timed to when they said they would decide, not before | Chasing early reads as pressure. |
| Gone quiet | A change of channel or angle, then a deliberate close-out | On your schedule, until the attempt limit is reached | More of the same message will not work. |
Read the timing column of this follow up cadence again. Three of the four are tied to an event: the enquiry arriving, the meeting ending, the date they named. Only the last is tied to your own calendar. That's the principle. Whenever the buyer gives you a date, use theirs.
Write it down, loosely
For each situation, write two things: what the next touch is, and roughly when. That's it. A sentence each.
You're not building a machine. The temptation, once you accept that follow-up matters, is to build an elaborate one. Resist it. What works is a handful of small habits performed every day, plus a record light enough that you keep it up.
The point of writing it down is the word "decision". If the gap between touches is a decision, you can defend it. If it's an accident, it's just another way a deal ends quietly.
The one rule under all of them
Every open deal has a next step with a date. Not "waiting to hear back". Not "they're thinking about it". A specific action and a specific day.
This is the foundation. Your four situations only work if each deal carries a date to hang the next touch on. A deal without one isn't open. It's unattended.
The best way to get the date is to get it in the room. Before a call ends, ask: what happens next, and when? Propose something concrete. "I will send the revised scope on Thursday, and we will speak the following week once you have shown it to whoever signs off. Shall I put that in now?" Where you can, put the next meeting in both calendars before you hang up. Thirty seconds. It saves a week of email.
Build it in one afternoon
Set aside an afternoon. Not a week. This is a few decisions, not a project.
- List the situations your deals are really in. Start with the four above and cut or add to match how you sell.
- For each, write the next touch in one sentence.
- Next to it, write the rough timing. Use the buyer's date when they gave you one.
- Decide the number of unanswered attempts and write the last message.
- Move every schedulable touch into a reminder, so the calendar holds it and your head doesn't.
That is the whole job. Be honest about step five, because it's the one people skip. A cadence nobody is reminded of is just a document.
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Skip the first row and new interest waits. Answering "as soon as I can" means hours on a quiet day and days on a busy one, and busy days are exactly when the most interest arrives.
Skip the second and good meetings fade. Both of you walk away with a slightly different memory of what was agreed.
Skip the third and you either chase too early or forget entirely.
Skip the fourth and your pipeline fills with deals that look alive and aren't. That one is the most expensive, because it also wrecks your forecast and hides the deals that genuinely need you.
Let the calendar hold your follow up cadence
A cadence on paper is a wish. A cadence in a reminder is a system.
Anything on your list that can be scheduled should be scheduled: the same-day reply with a booking link, the summary note, the check-in on the agreed date. Anything that can be automated should be, with one condition. The automation must not email someone you are already talking to personally. That's the solo version of two colleagues calling the same customer.
Which brings you to the principle of one owner. Each relationship needs exactly one place where its next step is held. Every person and every tool involved must know where that is. Shared ownership guarantees nobody follows up, because everyone assumes someone else has it.
Then use a short daily pass to keep the dates honest: overdue first, then today, then a glance at the next few days. If you want the routine, how to run a daily follow up review lays it out in ten minutes.
Where the cadence ends
A cadence without an end is nagging. Every situation needs a limit and a last message.
How many unanswered attempts does a deal get? What does the final note say? You decide both in advance, for each situation. Why in advance? Because without a limit you give up too early on someone who would have answered the fourth message, or you keep a dead deal on life support because closing it feels like failure. The full thinking is in how many follow ups before you stop.
Your follow up cadence is finished when each of the four situations has three things: a next touch, a rough timing and an exit.
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Pick any open deal and ask four questions.
- What is the next step?
- What is the date?
- Which of my situations is this deal in?
- If they stay silent, what happens, and when do I stop?
If you can't answer all four in under a minute, the cadence isn't done. The deal is being held together by your memory, and that's a much less reliable place than a list.
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Should I use the same cadence for every prospect?
No. Your follow up cadence should change with the situation. The right rhythm depends on where the deal is. A new enquiry, a post-meeting deal, a deal waiting on a decision and a deal that has gone quiet each need a different next touch at a different time.
How precise does a follow-up cadence need to be?
Not very. It needs to exist, so the gap between touches is a decision rather than an accident, and so the schedulable parts can be handed to a tool.
When should I follow up after sending a proposal?
Time it to when they said they would decide, not before. If they gave no date, getting one is your first job. Agree it in the room, with the next meeting in both calendars if you can.
Can I automate my follow-ups?
Yes, the parts that can be scheduled. Just make sure no automation contacts someone you are already speaking to personally, and that each relationship has exactly one holder of the next step.
The full method, with the checklists, is in The Follow-Up Playbook, a free 21-page playbook.
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